I got my hair done today. It is quite the process. We bleach my roots, rinse, add the pink, shampoo it out and then style it. This takes somewhere around three hours. I have done this every 7 weeks for the last 3 1/2 years.
"What made you go pink?" is a question I get often. The answer is pretty personal and might come as a surprise to some.
It was an effort to save my marriage.
Yep. You read that right.
In February of 2012, I was a wife and my relationship with my then husband was really struggling. He had his own business. I was running my own salon. We had only been married for 7 months. I was 28. We had a mortgage and all kinds of heavy responsibilities. We were domesticated and it all seemed very "adult" to me. Soon people would be asking about when we were going to start a family. It was a life I couldn't see myself in but there I was.
And I had brown hair.
I am not saying anything bad about brunettes. I personally love rich chocolate and caramel tones in hair. I love seeing them on other people and creating the look on my clients. But for me, at that point in my life, everything was f*cking brown.
I wanted to express myself and break free of the dullness I felt. I wanted to feel vibrant and fresh. I wanted my husband to see me in a new way. I wanted to remind him and myself that we could create any life we wanted together and it didn't have to fit inside anyone else's box besides our own.
So how was I going to do that? Color my hair hot pink.
Changing your hair is not a cure all. Although, it is where most women start when they are craving something different in their lives. It won't actually change your life unless you change your life.
I would be my own worst client because I actually hate getting my hair done. The time it takes, the chemicals etc... but anyone who has ever been to a salon knows that the shampoo process is the best part and then the end result is beautiful.
I suppose it's just like when your going through crap in your life whether it's a break up or a life change. The process of it might suck but it's almost always worth it in the end.
The lesson: Coloring my hair pink did not save my marriage but in a way, it served as a catalyst in the process of saving myself.
They say that blondes have more fun. I disagree. I'll have more fun with my pink hair any day ;)